Tips for talking to a depressed teen

Depression Overview ›› Depression in Children

The first thing you should do if you suspect depression is to talk to your teen about it. In a loving and non-judgmental way, share your concerns with your teenager. Let him or her know what specific signs of depression you�ve noticed and why they worry you. Then encourage your child to open up about what he or she is going through.

Offer support

Let depressed teenagers know that you�re there for them, fully and unconditionally. Hold back from asking a lot of questions (teenagers don�t like to feel patronized or crowded), but make it clear that you�re ready and willing to provide whatever support they need.

Be gentle but persistent

Don�t give up if your adolescent shuts you out at first. Talking about depression can be very tough for teens. Be respectful of your child�s comfort level while still emphasizing your concern and willingness to listen.

Listen without lecturing

Resist any urge to criticize or pass judgment once your teenager begins to talk. The important thing is that your child is communicating. Avoid offering unsolicited advice or ultimatums as well.

Validate feelings

Don�t try to talk teens out of their depression, even if their feelings or concerns appear silly or irrational to you. Simply acknowledge the pain and sadness they are feeling. If you don�t, they will feel like you don�t take their emotions seriously.

Sources and Additional Information:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen.htm